Fathers (whether they recognize it or not) are behaving in a way that will shape their children’s understanding of what it means to be a father, and that understanding will occupy a central place in their lives. Are you their protector, or the principal thing they need protection from? Are you the provider, or the main impediment to provision? Are you the driving engine of joy in your household? Or the central reason for depression and sorrow?
Douglas Wilson, Father Hunger: Why God Calls Men to Love and Lead Their Families